I need help. I don't like admitting that my child is driving me looney... but he ís driving me looney.
How do you cope with a two year old that does great with the potty away from home and will stay dry all day, but once home can't stay dry to save his life?
How do you cope with a two year old that has a problem with taking naps?
How do you cope with a two year old that wont go to bed and stay in bed and is up 3 hours past his bed time?
How do you cope with a two year old that has an overattachment to the sippy cup?
How do you cope without spanking them to bits, or losing your temper, or yelling?
I need help. I'm going insane.
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I commented on your facebook page but I didn't tell you about the sippy cup. We just took MErcedez's away and said she couldn't have it unless we were out running errands and that a big girl uses a real cup. It took her a little while but I didn't give in. If she wants a drink then she uses the cup. If she whines about it then she goes to her room to think about it. I don't do whining and sending her to her room gives us both the time out we need. I am a better mom if I can get a little break. Seriously I just went through all of this so sorry. Hang in there and it will get better. You just have to stick to your guns. I had one week of seiously spanking and time outs and I told Jake I couldn't be that kind of mommy but it was worth it she got it and we get along great now. Hope that the lengthy advise helps. If you need to vent you can call me anytime. I know what you are going through. 360-5795
Okay so I totally know when it comes to nap times. Carter is not taking his and by the time 5:30 comes around he is so tired that I just want to choke myself because I am so tired fo the whinning. So I keep him in his room and if he cries I don't go back in and eventually he will fall alseep. he was once in his room fro 5 1/2 hrs because I was not letting him out until he had a nap. I also think he does better when I stick to his schedule. If it is past his schedule it is almost like the point of no return. He almost never takes one then. He would rather play. The potty thing, everyone has there one idea. If bribes don't work, take something away. If that doesn't work, give him a cold shower and scare him to death. You will cry when it happens but I hear it works. The sippy cup C only gets when he is eating at the table, he can not walk around with it and I started using a water bottle for when we are out and about and he loves that. I think you can take control it will be hard and I think you can do it without spanking. YOu have to let him know you are in charge. Only you know what you can say to him that makes him have that look that says "mom means business" I also have to step out when I think I am just gonna loose it. Plus if I get down at his level and talk in a mean voice he knows whats up, it also saves me from yelling. I do not want to be a yeller. Good luck, love to you.
I definately am no pro at parenting & I think what you'll find from asking for advice is everyone is different, but it will give you some ideas to try. So here's what worked for me...
Potty.... My boys have both not potty trained until they were 2 years 11 months... I waited until they were very ready (not saying that Jack isn't), but then I think the trick is making it a 110% positive experience. It sounds like he knows what to do if he's doing it when you're away from home, so take him to the store & let him pick the treat. I usually kind of push them towards the dum dum suckers because they aren't too big of a treat each time. Then put them on top of the fridge & everytime he goes potty he gets one. If he has an accident, you say, "I'm so sorry you had an accident. I really want to give you a treat, but I can't unless you go in the potty. Let's try harder next time." It's worked for my 2. I really don't believe in the punishing for not going, but my kids have potty trained pretty quickly, but then again they have been older. I think it needs to be something they have a positive experience with though.
Naps I have NO clue.... I just suffer through that one. it's never fun when they reach the stage that they think they don't need one.... better listen to someone else for advice on that one.
Bedtime is not fun either, but short of tranquilizing him, what are you gonna do? You know our rule 8:00 you are in your room.... do as you will at that point, but do not come out. If he stays up late, make him get up at his regular time and see if he'll nap?? I don't know, just a thought....
Sippy cup... we are finally making Riley drink out of a regular cup at meals... So you don't want my 2 cents there either. He's always known how to do it, but I preferred sippy cups because if he hauled it around the house afterwards I didn't want a mess.
Sometimes you spank, yell & lose your temper which leads to a lot of guilt... we all do. One thing I did hear that I do try to incorporate is to get yourself down on the floor so you're at their level because the world is big & scary from down there. Read that asking Jane website that i have a link to from my blog. She's got some ideas, all centered around love. I read that a lot. It helps me to be a better mom.
Just asked Sam what you should do about Jack not wanting to nap & he said, "He nap at nighttime!"
Two year olds learn that they have a choice and it is never the one you want. They want to control their environment. Give him two choices both ending in your desired result! Potty training a boy was horrible for me... I gave up at 3 and a half and when I did he gave up diapers.. just like that in one morning he (landen) stopped wanting a diaper! If you are frustrated he will be.. If you let him choose he will. And be ok with his decision. The sippie cups just disappeared.. during nap time.. pack them up and don't get them out.. and most of all remember not giving in is your best key! He may go without a drink until he realizes he so thirsty that He'll take that cup. Buy him a new cup when he realizes his sippies are gone! I use to put a baby gate up in Landen's room to get him to sleep in there, take away nap time if he doesn't go to bed better.. Peyton only naps about once every 2 or 3 days. But he usually goes to bed good.. except for the days he has a nap. I haven't decided to start potty training but I HAVE TO by the end of the year because Peyton will be a Sunbeam.
I say just let him be about the potty training look at Wade!! The bed time thing well......you know what I think! No better time to take up running!! The sippy cup thing just make him use a big kid cup! Hid or throw away the sippy cup! Hang in there you can do it!!
the other thing is get a babysitter and take a break from him!! It will help you both!!! Once a week you need need need to leave him if only for an hour!!
Kara just wants to babysit him....
Wow! I have no idea. When Oaklee was hitting and pinching I asked our friends 3 year old girl... Me: Milan how is Oaklee going to learn not to hit and pinch? Milan: You should put her in ballet because its hard and you really have to listen and learn! Or you put her in the corner!
So maybe you could put him in ballet ha ha! I think all the other advice was good just take a little break when you get to the beyond frustration point!! I'm sure I'll come back to your blog when I get to this point with Oaklee.
Oh and so glad your wisdom teeth went good!!
How is the potty training going? My girls were so much easier...Zach, 3 1/2 years old, did not matter what I did....finally bribed him with a trip to Disneyland to see Ariel, it worked (we lived in Az then).
Get a babysitter and go on dates!!!! It will do you a world of good! You probably have all of these frustrations worked out already, but hang in there, they grow up way too fast!!
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